I like math. It’s logical and fun.
You can make some fun calculations about people using math.
For instance, how ignorant a person is can be determined by a simple function using a couple of variables.
W = The perfect image of the world and all the information in it
S = The size of your own world
K = How much you know about the world
K / S
The size of your knowledge about the world divided by the size of your own world gives you the percentage of how much you think you know about the world.
However for many people this calculation gives you a false sense of knowledge, because I’m guessing you haven’t taken a diligent walk on the wild side to try to disprove your own theories of the world. Instead you have pushed your own hypothesises to fit the data and in sense ignored reality. Anything you couldn’t fit in has been simply discarded, some people are bad or crazy, people are throw your up hands up in the air confusing.
The percentage of people you need to discard in your model is how wrong you are. The less people you need to discard, the better your model is (for understanding humans).
How do you know you are wrong? You know it every time you have a conversation with another human being. If you can’t see their perspective you probably need to gain more knowledge about the world. The better your conversation are, the closer you are to understanding how people. If you have the experience that when you meet a stranger you understand them truly and completely you might be on to something.
Of course the actual computation of your knowledge is.
K / W
Compared to this we all know very little. However understanding that you know nothing is a good step toward knowledge because it’s an understanding of a rose is a rose is a rose.
It’s good to understand that understanding that you know nothing isn’t a metaphor. It’s an actual state of mind where you have explored the world enough to come back to the same place in your mind and seeing it through a different light.
This is likely true because the mind uses math to make computations so with little knowledge or with a vast array of knowledge the same underlying computation will still be true. It’s just that the array of knowledge you use for the computation is larger.
This is why it’s so frustrating to transfer knowledge sometimes. Because if you know almost nothing about a topic or have worked in it for years (I’ve spent a decade thinking and working in psychology) the same fundamental truths will be true.
The only difference is that you have an incredibly large amount of underlying layers of knowledge that helps to reach the same conclusion.
So here’s the advice.
Stop using people to feel good about yourself by making them into something they are not within your own mind. Stop categorising them into neat boxes so you can feel good about yourself. Try instead to understand them and actually listen to what they have to tell you.
A real meeting with another human being is one of the greatest things you can experience. If you let go of your own bias you will gain the ability to experience that. It will transform your life.